Ditch Anxiety and People Pleasing
Find Your Voice
Gabrielle Montana MS LPC SAC
Brainspotting & Parts Therapy In Wisconsin & Florida
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Online therapy (Wisconsin and Florida) AND in-person sessions in Madison, Wisconsin!
I work with adults who have been through heavy life experiences that have left them anxious, unable to assert their personal needs and expectations, and emotionally exhausted. They need a safe space to honor the raw emotional suckage they have been left with, so they can find their voice and take their life back!
Let’s be real, anxiety is a b!tch. I can help, let’s chat!
My clients struggle like you do. They live with anxiety- the heart racing, chest tightening, skin crawling, keeps you up all night kind. They often grew up in emotionally and physically unsafe environments, been in inconsistent and unstable relationships, and struggled with their personal identity. Being on guard, people pleasing, and quieting their voice was a means to survive with the least amount of damage.
When my clients first come in, they feel ANXIOUS. They don’t know where to start. They minimize their experiences and often say “I’m fine” when really they are living in their own personal hell and trauma is the prison keeper. And lets be clear- Trauma, is also a b!tch.
Despite knowing the challenges they have been through, my clients tell themselves “I should be over this. It’s not that bad.” They often avoid confronting people in their life or asserting themselves, even if they are unhappy with the relationship or the way life is going. Remaining quiet to reestablish a sense of internal safety - also known as the trauma response of fawning - is something my clients know very well.
Their fear of being seen and the possible harm that could come from that - being emotionally rejected, criticized, physically hurt - keeps my clients stuck in a pattern of shrinking into themselves, doing what they are told they “should” do, and forcing themselves to believe the story of “If I just forget about it, it will go away. I’ll be fine.”
Before my clients came to see me, they carried the weight of their experiences on their chest, rarely feeling like they could catch their breath, be present in their life, or feel happy. They felt distant from friends and family, drained by the day after day hold worry and restlessness had on them, and too exhausted to even send a quick text.
Like my clients, you deserve to live anxiety free - establishing your own rules on life, setting boundaries, and confident in the way you show up in the world. Feeling relief without depending on anyone else’s approval is not out of reach.
If you want to ditch anxiety, break out of people pleasing, say no, assert your personal needs and expectations - I’d love to help you get there.
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I have found that clients who are the most successful in therapy are the clients who come to session ready to dig into their discomfort. They follow through with recommendations and acknowledge that the work does not stop when our 50 minutes are up. They are exhausted of the never-ending anxious cycle of “I can’t believe I’m still feeling this way, I should be over this Sh!t” and they’re ready to dig deep. They are committed to their personal growth, and ready to take their life back.
Does this sound like you? Let’s Chat!
Individual Therapy
You took a risk and exposed your struggles, pain, the heaviness of "Will I ever get over this? I'm going to feel this forever." And you were met with "You are so strong!" "Everything happens for a reason." These statements, often given by well intentioned family, friends, and acquaintances, SUCK to hear. As much as they push us to confront the nature of human resiliency, they don't actually create space for us to get there. In fact, they skip over the most important part of achieving resiliency, which is holding space for the raw emotional suckage that anxiety, trauma, and heavy life experiences leave us with.
Space where we can scream "This F*cking sucks! Be angry with me!" We NEED space for anger, self-pity, screaming to the universe "Why me?", grief, despair, raw emotional suckage.
So, that's what I give you. Space for that. And based on your unique individual needs, we create a balance of honoring the suckage while incorporating healthy coping skills, interpersonal skills, and daily habits to help take back control of your life.
David Grand, PhD discovered that "where you look affects how you feel." Brainspotting is a focused mindfulness treatment that allows a person to process trauma that is deep in the subcortical brain.
Couples Therapy
I work with couples who want to unpack intergenerational trauma that has invited itself into the relationship, learn how to be an effective, empathetic witness to their partner’s life experiences, and understand how their parts interact with their partner’s parts. Couples therapy is a space to define and communicate personal needs and expectations, renegotiate boundaries, and move towards a secure attachment.
IN Person Therapy:
5944 Seminole Centre Ct.
Suite 130
Fitchburg, WI 53711
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